FYI - Through a rapist's eyes!

FYI - Through a rapist's eyes!

A group of rapists and date rapists in



prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim



and here are some interesting facts:



 



1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.



They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid



or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to



go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common



targets.



 



2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women



who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors



around to cut clothing.



 



3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through



their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are



off guard and can be easily overpowered.



 



4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is



grocery store parking lots.



 



5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.



 



6] Number three is public restrooms.



 



7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman



and quickly move her to a second location where they don't have to



worry about getting caught.



 



8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged



because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going



after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.



 



9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or



other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their



hands.



 



10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to



the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince



these guys you're not worth it.



 



POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:



 



1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or



with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask



them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:



can't believe it is so cold out here, we're in for a bad winter. Now



that you've seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up,



you lose appeal as a target.



 



2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of



you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to



said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would



not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY



target.



 



3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of



it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER



SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.



 



4] If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can



do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from



behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and



armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this



guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was



trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin



and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching



yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.



 



5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a



particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it



is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and



make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our



instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of



trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.



 



6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers



and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing



down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using



much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked



audibly.



 



7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of



your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any



odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel



little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really



was trouble.



 



FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ....



I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be



some, where you will go "hmm I must remember that" After reading,



forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in



this crazy world we live in.



 



1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your



body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.



 



2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks



for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from



you.... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or



purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN



THE OTHER DIRECTION!



 



3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back



tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like



crazy. The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has



saved lives.



 



4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating,



working, etc., and just sit



(doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS! The



predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for



him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell



you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.



 



5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or



parking garage:



 



a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be



hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the



passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE



RIDING A TAXI CAB) .



 



b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the



passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling



them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their



cars.



 



c. Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and



the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest



your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a



guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE



THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)



 



6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are



horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).



 



7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS



RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times;



And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!



 



8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may



get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a



good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies



of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often



asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when



he abducted his next victim.



 



I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a



life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going



to send this to the ladies only, but guys, if you love your mothers,



wives, sisters, daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as



well.



 



Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the



world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it's better safe than



sorry.



 



Jim Paredes



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