How to let go of the fears that can turn a discerning dater into a serious commitment-phobe By Rabbi Shmuley Boteach Beliefnet Updated: May 29, 2008 Dear Rabbi Shmuley , I am 30 years old, and would love to meet someone, fall in love, and get married. My problem is that I'm too picky -- or at least my friends tell me I am. I have first and sometimes second dates fairly often, but there's always something that makes me end it before it gets too much more involved than that. He took a cell phone call during our date. Or he works late every night. Or he has no relationship with his family. To me, these are major red flags that he is not a man who can be devoted to a relationship without baggage or distraction. I know my standards are unreasonably high, but can you advise me on how to tell the difference between a minor human quirk and a relationship deal-breaker? -- Picky love and fear are diametrical opposites Hi Picky, In the back of my book...
It’s been a month now, and I guess, I’ve been better… There are less sad moments, like crying before I close my eyes to sleep. Yes, there are still moments when I think of him, and feel quite sad, but like what one of my buddies had said, letting go is the first step in moving on… I am still confused if he still loves me, until now, he still sends me messages in the phone, like, he misses me, and that he still loves me. It feels good to receive those messages, but the sad part is, to believe if those were true… It will take time for me to forget him, or maybe I won’t. I’ll just have to make myself heal, and forget the hurt, and retain the good memories. In a short span of time, I really loved him; I will never forget all the sweet and happy times we spent together. I’ve been happy with him. I’ll always cherish those moments. In ti...
By Addie Johnson We struggle with war, poverty, global warming, rising crime rates, and a barrage of news, hardly any of it good. We hear of people getting sick, getting divorced, or dying. Celebrities have fabulous lives, but you don't, and the "if only's" threaten to win the day: "My life would be sweet if only I were richer, more famous, thinner, younger, older, had a better job, lived in a different city..." But happiness is all around you. And it doesn't care how much money you have or the circumstances of your life. When Off to Bed, Forget the Fight Maya Angelou's brother gave her a painting with the instruction to hang it so that it was the last thing she and her husband saw before going to bed at night. So if they were in the middle of an argument, they could look at the painting and say, "Oh, stop. Whatever it was, whatever you said, forget it," and go to bed with a twinkle in their eyes. Create a Love List If I'm...
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